The term “Leap of Faith” originated with the 19th century Danish philosopher and theologian Soren Kierkegaard. It had to do with believing in and trusting God when rationally it made little sense.
“Faith is stepping out into the unknown with nothing to guide us but a hand just beyond our grasp.” Frederick Buechner
For me personally, the leap of faith was stepping out into the unknown when my fear (anticipatory anxiety) was close to overwhelming.
I’ve written about this quite extensively in two of my books: The Unwelcome Blessing and DiosPsyTrek. The first book was about coping with depression and the second a collection of blogs, sketches and autobiographical reminiscences.
In a nutshell, when I was in my 20s, I suffered overwhelming generalized and situational anxiety and coped with my fears by drinking a lot. My first panic attack occurred when I was 21 and a senior in college, but by then I’d endured generalized anxiety for several years. In my late-20s and early-30s I was pretty much a functioning alcoholic. In my mid-30s I’d sobered up and in 1979, I had an unexpected born-again experience. I was married then and marriage had a lot to do with me quitting alcohol and then after finding the Lord my anxiety subsided considerably.
It was still there but it was a lot less. It mainly manifested in situation where I would feel trapped–like stuck in the middle of a long row in a theater, a long slow-moving line, traffic jams, elevators, tunnels and long bridges. Those could be frequent challenges but generally manageable or avoidable ones. My real bugaboo was flying.
My last flight had been in 1969.
I went 33 years without getting on a plane–from Aug of ’69 to Aug of 2002. Now I look forward to flights. How did that happen?
Well, for one thing I’m pretty sure God had plans for me and those plans involved flying. It all came to a head in July and Aug of 2002. My stepson Jeremy in California had been hounding me for a couple years to come out for a visit. I thought about driving and that would be about a four-day trip out driving and another four back and then a few days there and it would be quite an investment in time–about two weeks–and more than I wanted to be away. I even looked into taking the train, but the route and connections were not convenient.
Jeremy and his girlfriend were coming to Fla for a visit in July. I asked if I could fly back with them. Having him to hold my hand so to speak would make the trip a lot less scary. In an act of uncharacteristic optimism, I booked the flight.
Three days before the flight I was browsing at Books-a-Million and looking thru the Christiann section when I saw a book with an odd title: Ruthless Trust. It was by Brennan Manning an author with whom I was unfamiliar. After just glancing at a few pages, I knew this was the book I needed to read.
What I got out of Manning’s book was that whereas I believed in God, I didn’t really trust Him–at least not enough to get on an airplane. And as a Christian counselor I felt like a fraud. I needed to take the leap of faith and step out into the unknown trusting God with the outcome. Manning says that Jesus died for us and all we really had to give back to Him was our trust.
As for my fear of flying it was not a worry about crashing. I knew that flying was statistically much safer than driving. One was thousands of times more likely to die in a car crash on the way to the airport than on the flight. It was not the plane crashing that gave me angst it was not having any control over the situation. Up in the air one’s fate apparently rests in the hands of the pilots and mechanics–but of course it’s really the Lord who is ultimately in control. Our “control” in any situation is largely an illusion.
We flew out of Tampa on Aug 5th.in the early morning. I didn’t sleep much the night before and I was grateful to have Jeremy usher me thru all the airport security stuff that I was unfamiliar with post 9/11. We were not seated together on the flight but that was okay. I had a CD player with me and listened to classical music and gospel music for much of the five hour flight. Over Arizona we ran into some turbulence and that provoked some white knuckle moments, but an hour later we started to descend and when I saw the mountain peaks west of LA I started to feel like maybe we would make it safely there. And of course we did.
I had a great six-day visit. Flying back was on a late-night redeye. Jeremy flies a lot and enjoys it and that was somewhat infectious. He took me to LAX and made sure I got headed thru the right gate. The flight was 30 minutes late getting started and the pilot said there was an issue with one of the engines. I was tempted to bolt for the door but didn’t. On the four-hour flight back I was just too tired to feel much anxiety.
My next flight was 17 months later in Jan of 2004. It was a mission trip to the Dominican Republic with a team of about 15 primarily from St. Mary Magdalen church. Not only the flight, but the whole trip was way out of my comfort zone. I knew that we would be in an isolated village high in the mountains and worrying about what we would face was a major challenge for me. Once again, I had some anxiety, but it was manageable, and overall, the trip was a wonderful experience. So wonderful in fact that I now look forward to flying as I feel something really worthwhile is waiting at the other end. I suppose since then I’ve flown about 50 times, including four trips across the big pond to Europe.
Control is largely an illusion. It’s something we humans tell ourselves they have to have to keep anxiety at bay. We feel like if we have no control or if we give up control that fear will overwhelm us. We might have a panic attack, pass out, be rendered completely helpless or have a cerebral stroke. Who knows? This is what fear whispers into our thoughts. And I believe that “fear” is moderated by the demonic. When we are preoccupied with avoiding that which we fear we are unlikely to do much for God’s kingdom.
The first step in any 12-step program such as AA is admitting that one has no control over their addiction or behavior. Not only that, but that they are not God and that they have no control, period. The second step is choosing God or a higher power to restore one to “sanity” or wellbeing. And the third step is giving up control to God or that higher power.
I also believe that when one stops facing their fears in attempting to cope with them, they stop growing. They get stuck. The more they give in to fear, the more they live a life of avoiding opportunities for growth. Usually, their circle gets narrower and narrower.
At the core of much anxiety is the mild to moderate long lasting depression known as dysthymic disorder. Some nervous systems lack the neurotransmitter serotonin which underlies problems with anxiety, depression and addictions–and so in some cases medication can make a big difference. Most of the commonly prescribed antidepressants are SSRIs– like Prozac, Zoloft, Lexapro and Paxil. They’re known as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors. With some of my clients an SSRI has made a huge difference in their ability to face their fear. The little jolt in optimism that the SSRI makes can give some folks the needed boost confidence.
But ultimately there is no substitute for facing one’s fear and anxiety. Serious Christians have huge advantage in that regard. They’re equipped and empowered to take the leap of faith, and we must keep in mind that our trust is the only thing we can give back to the Lord who gave everything for us.
Tucker
Okay, I admit it, I’m a fan-boy and Tucker Carlson is my crush. I subscribe to his TCN network, and before that I followed him on Fox News–and I was considering joining Twitter, now X.
I don’t agree with him 100% of the time–but pretty close.
My first recollection of him was over 15 years ago when he worked for either MSNBC or CNN. At that time I was not a habitual watcher of the cable news networks and tended to sample all of them. My first opinion was not favorable. He wore a bow tie and I tend to feel that most of that ilk are weirdos. I think of Louis Farrakhan and Bill Nye the Science Guy. However, one of my all-time favorite people, Harry Truman, sometimes wore a bow tie–and even FDR. But back in the 1940s and 50s it was more acceptable.
Eventually, I gravitated to Fox as I was becoming more and more conservative. I looked forward to watching Bill O’Reilly every night in the 8:00 time slot. About the same time in 2016, when O’Reilly was canned, I gave up cable. It was costing me a fortune every month and though I missed Fox and a couple other channels I started saving almost a hundred bucks a month.
When Tucker Carlson was announced as the new host in that time slot I remember thinking, “Well, that’s probably not gonna work.” The O’Reilly Factor was the most popular show on cable news for many many years and I didn’t see Tucker capturing the same audience. Boy, was I wrong.
Over the next couple years I’d occasionally catch Tucker Carlson Tonight when I was staying in a hotel and I was pleasantly surprised. I also had read that his ratings equaled and then surpassed O’Reilly’s–and it was becoming evident why. He was even more articulate and humorous than Bill’O–and his conservatism had also obviously evolved.
Then about two to three years ago I found I could watch him on YouTube a few hours after his telecast. Then following him became a nightly ritual. I could not go to bed without hearing what Tucker had to say about the issues of the day.
When he was fired I was shocked but not totally surprised. In a sense, he’d become bigger than Fox News itself. His opinions were expressed with a cutting edge so sharp that could possibly offend the higher up Fox produces and its owners the Murdoch family. Also, his views on the 2020 election Dominion voting machine controversy may have been helped cost Fox a huge settlement.
Tucker’s demise in Fox caused me to join Glen Beck’s Blaze network. I was thinking Tucker might eventually end up there. In any event he kept in touch with his fans doing independent telecasts that were immensely successful. He clearly had a market and a loyal following, and I like many others was more than ready to subscribe to his TCN network.
He’s had some terrific interviews with experts on Covid, the Ukraine war, the border crisis, RFK Jr, Alex Jones, Elon Musk, UFOs, Jan 6th and Vladimir Putin himself. –pretty much any topic of interest to myself and obviously many others. Of course, Wikipedia refers to him as a conspiracy theorist.
Recently, I saw an interview of him by noted podcaster Lex Fridman. Fridman is in his late-30s and was born in the old Soviet Union. His family moved to the US when he was very young, and his academic credentials are in high tech and computers. His podcast interviews are among the most successful on YouTube and other platforms. Fridman tried to pin Tucker down on the Putin interview and the war in Ukraine without much success. The bottom line was that even Fridman is a Tucker fan.
He is criticized on both the right and the left as a Vladimir Putin or Russian aggression apologist. Indeed, I can see why. He voices some justification for Russia’s invasion of Ukraine. The reason being our neo-cons pushing Ukraine’s membership in NATO–pretty much the equivalent of Soviet missiles in Cuba. He condemns Putin’s war but not nearly enough. He is right however in seeing congress pushing massive Ukraine aid as a windfall for our corrupt military industrial complex.
I think anyone interested in current events who is middle of the road neutral, or conservative would feel likewise about Tucker. His insights are brilliant and usually presented with cutting humor. He punctuates his clever/funny thoughts with a high-pitched giggle that took a while for me to get used to. But there are times when is humor is just a little too cutting. In fact, downright vicious. Like perpetually referring to CNN’s Brian Steltzer as “the eunuch” or calling various other talking heads like Karine Jean-Pierre or Chris Cuomo as “the dumbest person on TV.”
His mission statement is to “tell the unadulterated truth till the day I die.” Indeed, one gets the feeling that he is absolutely committed to telling his version of the truth without fear. I hope he has a great security detail as I’m sure there are many on the left that would like to rub him out. Since the death of Rush two years ago his voice is the most stringent and popular on the right.
His life story is one of the few that I envy. He was born into a well-off family and his early years were spent in Southern California. His father worked in the public sector and the family eventually moved to the DC area. He attended Trinity, an excellent small college in New England. From an early age his career has been devoted strictly to journalism. He married his high school sweetheart at a young age, and they raised four daughters. He appears to still be very much in love with his wife and quite happy with his domestic situation. His career success and accolades do not seem near as important to him as his personal life. However, he has said he’s 54 years old and had a great life and if it ended now, he’d feel okay about it–or words to that effect. In some way his secure home base gives him the freedom for his work.
He has two rural homes that he splits time between, one in Western Maine and the other in South Florida. He does most of his shows from studios in his homes. His garb is traditional semi-dressy casual–blue blazer with a handkerchief in the breast pocket and a striped tie. I get the feeling his wife picks out his wardrobe. For recreation he goes fly fishing and hunting with his retrievers. He has an enviable life. He’s a handsome successful man in his prime. Who wouldn’t want to be Tucker.
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